With reference to the above words every person definitely knows that it is a topic on the seniors of our families whose life is on the verge of sunset.
But there is no harm in thinking about this topic, since each and every person will be going through this phase of life. Of recent, this phase of life has turned a nightmare to children. The middle aged generation is facing problems with looking after the old people, where they have to sacrifice many things and also adjust their busy life with the seniors.
We see that many children do not look after their parents and may be just wait for them to vanish and want their properties for which, they are going to any extent to claim it. In India there has been a custom and culture to respect elders and even consult them for decisions, but does this still prevail in all the houses ?
I have seen that mostly in Western culture, the govt is very much involved into the well-being and caring of the senior citizens. Actually, it’s good, there is no dependency on any one. Children abroad are very independent right from childhood and don’t really stay with their parents. Parents also are on their own and may be, sometimes they hear from their children. It is only Christmas eve and Easter celebrations which witness some get together’s enclosing a feeling of warmth and love.
I am born in India and I am very attached to my mother. In fact I cannot imagine myself without her. It happens to me that I get frustrated with her demands cause she wants all the things her way. But still I feel secured with the feeling that she is alive because she is the only elder person surviving from my father’s generation. I don’t know how I will handle myself when she is not going to be there. I visit her alternate days and that really makes me happy than anything else!
Never do I understand whether the Indian style of living is good or the Western style. In the later, people are looked after by govt but the attachment is totally wiped off. It is for us to decide ultimately what we want to do. I think the western culture treats both the high ends and low ends of life phases equally. The newbie leaving the house at 16 and the oldie in his 60’s , undergo near about the same emotional trauma. However in India, people in their ending journeys feel more emotionally disconnected than in their 20’s. It has been a tradition in India to give up all we have for our children. And then expect that they would give all they have to support them in their old age.
Government, private NGOs and religious trusts should take initiative, and encourage institutions to take up more senior citizens homes. They can take care of bed ridden and financially weak senior citizens. The govt should come out with a rule for citizens to contribute for such type of institutions which in return will take care of their old age in future. So that they don’t need to be dependent on others for anything.
“Everyone desires Long Life not one old age”
I read somewhere that in Switzerland, a new rule was passed for Senior citizens by an old age home. Something which emphasized on “Do it now to get it later “ concept. The idea was to increase the importance of the senior generation and also to remind the young that they too would someday reach this stage. They asked people to come to the old age homes to take care of elders, either physically, mentally or economically. And had those favors counted and noted down. The most interesting was the next part. They assured that they would get the same hours of care and attention in return when they would land up.! Now, isn’t that an amazing idea to throw light upon the phases of life.
“Every dog has a day” and someday surely it wont be yours !. I know it is difficult to handle the elders at times, but that’s how we were when we were small. Right? They did not give up on us. No matter what. And that’s what we need to do.
Lets support them when they need us the most. May be we are not perfect, may be we go wrong in understanding them but lets not make it a reason to leave them alone. Lets show them that we still love them.