Of course yes! ( With a broad smile and a ray of hope which lit up my eyes.)
I mean who would not crave for a person who loves you, no matter what. And frankly speaking I crave that attention , that love and respect a lot too .
It would not be wrong to say that we are all programmed to fall for such things. Every individual longs for a partner , because we as humans are trained to protect our survival.
Seeing those couples fighting and at times having fun , we always think why those things don’t happen with us? why the relationships don’t last even if you try so hard , and put in so many efforts ? Oh god , why this pain? why me ? May be it’s not the right time. May be the person himself was a cheat. Right? Wrong. (Yeah I may agree with all those explanations you might have)
I strongly believe that you always get what you want. So if at all there is any fault or there is anything that is holding you back from that “perfect relationship” is only and only “YOU“. Yes you heard it right.
Let’s understand this.
You are committed to something else unconsciously. Just assess yourself once and you will find that you actually never want a relationship. You are actually always committed to being single. Don’t agree? Okay. Do you remember those moments when you were in a committed relationship , but you continuously unconsciously though, were thinking about being free or being single and enjoying your freedom? That’s where your unconscious mind is working for you.
If you are being cheated upon every time then you are committed to being fooled around every-time.
If you always have a partner who doesn’t always do his part of work, and makes you feel helpless, then you probably are committed to be taken for granted.
As harsh it may sound, it’s a fact I realized and experienced.
Every human being is himself a creator and as said “thoughts become things! “. We may want something at a moment but that’s not what would make us happy if we actually get it. Correct?
Studies conducted with several couples found that the expectations they had set for marrying a guy were entirely different than what they actually settled for. So what does it mean? It means that there is always a subconscious which works unknowingly and things happen according to what it wants. The problem is they are working unknowingly.
The good thing here is that, you know now what is going wrong. And now that you know, you can can change it and commit to create what you want. Because every thing that is happening around you, is influenced by your thoughts , your emotions and your reactions.
The point is if you actually want to be in a long lasting relationship or if you dream about that committed relationship, then you will also have to change what you think unconsciously. Now how to do that?
Lookout for patterns in your life(anything that is happening more than 3 times, which you don’t want ) and you will know what you are committed to. The moment you realize this, try to change and start consciously recommitting to what you want. Make a habit . Slowly and gradually make a habit to change your wants and attract the right kind of people for right kind of relationship.
There is practically nothing like “bad luck” or “wrong man” in a relationship.
So next time, you feel you are not getting what you want, just check what are you committed to unconsciously. Turn your thoughts to create an expected outcome.